Archive for the ‘Delhi’ Category

Fish with a hobby


2011
08.22

EACH time I walked passed the pedispa at one of these Delhi malls, I would think “Mmmm…that could be interesting”. So, one day, I found myself immersing both feet in a trough of water and garra rufa fish.

The fish were swimming at leisure but human toes seem to pique their interest. Soon they were nibbling away. “It is their hobby,” said the man behind the counter. “They do not fight with each other,” he added.

The fish are brought in from Malaysia or Turkey and have a life span of seven months. They grow up to 5 inches, and their therapeutic abilities have earned them the title of “Doctor fish”. I also I noticed that their lips have quite the pout!

feast of dead skin...

Dead skin it seems serves as a snack, in between regular meals. The feeling oscillates between ticklish and a little creepy; every now and then I visualised a swarm of insects gnawing away! This continues for 15 minutes, followed by a 10 minute foot massage. Rs 500 are the damages.

Despite creepy sensations, I see myself getting more garra rufa pedispas. Like sushi and dry wine, this one’s an acquired taste. And I think I acquired it rather quickly.

Apparently, this practice is banned in some countries such as the US, due to the risk of infection. Hygeine is a top concern. No such issues here in India, it seems.

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Love from Washington DC


2011
08.16
ON a bleak Monday morn in Delhi, I received a lovely postcard from Washington DC. I think of DC as the New Delhi of US, and what DC is to Delhi is what New York is to Mumbai, except that everything is cleaner. Suddenly it was a bleak Monday morn no more! My friend Sudu had sent a charcoal print of Capitol Hill, as it was in the 18OOs. Here are some close-ups of the postcard.

Capitol Hill in 1884

back in the day...

But the best part really was the message from Sudu, who made living in Delhi quite bearable in the early days. In this day and age a handwritten note is all the more precious…thanks my friend…

a handwritten note...

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Little artists


2011
07.28

I ALWAYS considered myself to be hopeless with kids (unlike with puppies and kitties). But perhaps I am not as hopeless as I anticipated. The two rascals who live above my office did something so sweet – it put smiles on my face and a spring in my step. I walked into office one morning and spotted these drawings pinned on my soft board. What’s more the ones by the older one Saraswati also features the names of each object in the picture. Gulab (rose). aam (mango). saib (apple).

Art by Kuldeep

I was stunned. My colleague then informed me that the kids were at my desk after I left work. They pinned everything up and stole out, the evening before.

The kids hail from an abusive household and life isn’t pretty. The father would regularly beat the mother and after much effort by many, thankfully the beatings have stopped almost completely. He never does anything to the kids and is loving when not under the influence of alcohol, but with it he morphs into a mindless brute.

Cat resembling an extraterrestrial. and a gulab.

But the scars of this dynamic are evident in the kids who loiter around aimlessly all day and never seem to be doing any lessons. One day the grandmother, a fragile old lady who does a lot of work around the house, mentioned that the kids give her a wack every now and then. Can one expect them to know this is wrong when their father does the very same thing? But this cycle needs to break.

I gave the older girl Saraswati (she calls herself ‘saswati’) a telling off. She choked and would not say a thing. I couldn’t tell if she was sorry or mad. So, I let her be and went on my way. You see, Saraswati is a natural charmer, and she’s a sensitive girl too. But she has a lot of pride and when she is wrong, she purses her lips and refuses to speak. Then one has to have a conversation and draw her out, using the voice of reason.

"I confess. I did it" :)

But this time, I just let her be. The next day she smiled and went into a garrulous rant about some very inconsequential goingons and I realised that all the idle time is turning these kids into gossips. So, I told her that she must spend her time doing something useful – like drawing. Over the last few days, she seemed very busy with colour pencils and drawing paper. And this was the result. What’s more interesting is that she got her brother Kuldeep to also chip in. Some crayons and drawing books are in order for these young uns’!

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cities changing people


2011
07.09

Is it a coincidence that two people on the very same day relate how the city over time, has altered the fabric of their personalities?

“Delhi has made me a really, really mean person,” fesses’ M, the soft contours of her face turning jagged as she explains how this sweet girl morphed into a hard-nosed woman. A hairstylist by profession, M struts around like the quintessential Bandra girl – casually dressed, no-nonsense attitude, friendly and swift in her movements. But she seems to detest the people here. “Either you are fighting with an autowallah or some man who is staring at your arse,” she explains.

One time the cops randomly came after her hubby accusing him of committing theft. She flew into a rage on his behalf and demanded to know how they could accuse someone who is not capable of“killing a cockroach” of committing a crime and sans proof? And indeed M does stand out like a sore thumb amongst the ladies here – because of her spark and a friendly disposition.

Earlier in the day I caught R sporting a woebegone expression. How are you? I asked. “Fed up!” he answered! “Kya hua?,” I probed.

People in this city have no depth. They only want to know where you work, where do you live and what car you drive. “So why did you settle down here,” I inquired.

Apparently he got “stuck”, and sounded rather broken in spirit over this decision at an age, which some people may deem “past his prime”. Cynicism flowed freely and I empathised with him on some accounts. But at the end of the convo he said to me,” Don’t lose heart” – ironic since he is the one who has written off the city.

I suppose my opinions of the city are still shaping up and it helps that I am making no effort whatsoever to “fit in”. Perhaps one needs to do it especially if ones kids attend a socially affluent school or you work for a high profile corporate or own  a business.

Yet, my own life has been enriched in some interesting ways, since the move from Mumbai to Delhi. I practice Yoga regularly, volunteer for the love of canines with a vengeance and also brought sis down here to attend a training school for the hearing impaired. I love the parks, and the woods and the deer and the peacocks. Less partying and more activities and concerts. The fabric of my lifestyle has changed.

But it ain’t all perfect. I do miss that spontaneity and spark in people. And nice, freewheeling conversations with no strings attached. sigh.

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Animal care internship


2011
07.08
MY four-Sunday internship with Red Paws Rescue kicked off last week, and though I have been planning to blog about it, I have procrastinated all week long! Of course, this has nothing to do with my motivation levels for the internship itself, which was a both a learning experience AND an eye opener about the plight and needs of our canine friends.
The shelter is located at Sai Ashram in Chattarpur. You’ll know right off the bat that you’ve arrived as you will be greeted by a gang of curious but friendly canines.
As I entered the shelter I realised I was inside a cemetery for dogs, with loving epithets and fancy gravestones. A bunch of volunteers were acquainting themselves with the animals at the shelters. Volunteers comprised parents, kids, single adults and students, all sincere about learning and giving.

this lil' fella has a bad bout of distemper that paralysed his hind legs...but his spirit isn't dampened and he hops around staving off any bullies in the vicinity

There are two to three categories of animals at the shelter. The healthy buggers who run freely in the grass and compound and even outside, the ill boys and girls who suffer from mange, distemper and other ailments, and the abandoned ones who are fewer in number and waiting for a home/ or to recover from their ailments, which is mostly the reason they were abandoned.

We bathed the animals, applied anti-mange lotion and removed ticks (a truckload of them) with a vengeance. Of course cuddles and hugs were free flowing. There were a couple of kids who were slightly terrified but warmed up eventually. Next week we shall receive our red paw rescue signature tees. So happy to be an intern. Yippee!

Sarah spent all morning de-ticking and comforting this lil fellow. Update (July 22) : She is now fostering Snoopy, and he is recovering with all that TLC!

German Shepard - lab mix wants some TLC

this terrified boy turned to putty when this pup rolls in his arms...

This dalmation was abandoned with a fractured foot...needs foster care to make sure he doesn't chew his cast off...otherwise a congenial chappie...

this lil sweetheart is blind and didn't quite know what is happening...but such trust!

Rani is a spitz who gave birth to a litter recently...

This lil bugger, last of Rani's litter has been adopted...

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Two faces of the wife thrasher


2010
12.08

I WAS single-mindedly focused on work, yoga and helping sis settle into life in Dilli, when this self-indulgent reverie was nipped in the bud by the sounds of a woman in distress. She was being thrashed by her husband, a night watchman by profession, and was being called foul things like “badmash aurat” and “gundi aurat” because he suspected her of sleeping with his brother.

Their three kids stood in the vicinity. The eldest, a teary-eye girl of eight or so, seemed to sense the mother’s pain. Her brother, a boy of 6 or seven was grinning. The youngest, a girl of about four who for some strange reasons likes to dress up like a boy, was also grinning. “Woh jhooth bol raha hai,” the boy told me in my ear.

The husband turned to me and said she was a bad woman. “Even if she was, no one should EVER hit a woman,” I said. This tenet did not go down well with the man, who was punch drunk. He asked his wife to leave the house along with the kids. In the next 20 minutes the lady and her children scrapped together some things, including a stick of radish, sweaters and a bedsheets, and bundled them into the trunk of my car. On her way down the stairs, the wife crossed paths with her husband, who dropped all the items in his hands, so he could slap her once again. The lady began wailing again, and we hurried to the vehicle.

Her sister lived in a very tiny room, which could barely accommodate two people, let alone six. A friend who accompanied us, told me, “The husband will be back soon because he has needs (food and sex)”.

And she was right. The following morning, he was there with an apology and the promise to never slap her around again. But the wife wanted to stay put. She, the eldest daughter and I headed to an NGO for abused women that came highly recommended on Twitter and otherwise. A counselor met us and explained the protocol. The lady would need to chronicle in writing the husband’s misdemeanor and that she wanted the NGOs help, post which they would speak to the husband and informs him that if he continues down this path an FIR will be filed and they would fight the court case, which followed. The counselor said she would speak to the husband that very day, if she wished to file one.

But this was not to be. I called up the next only to be told that case worker was on leave and no one seemed to have any record of this meeting. One week and two days later we have not heard from them.

In such a scenario, time is of the essence. The husband was coaxing the wife with a vengeance, to come home. Her sister was coaxing her to follow suit. We dialed another helpline that came well-recommended but the No. was constantly busy. Several people who directly or indirectly work in the area of abuse offered help mostly in the form of suggestions of which NGO to call. I also received laundry lists of organisations and their nos, which effectively, one can pull off the Internet. I am grateful for their efforts, however lists are more intimidating than helpful. And frankly who had the time to cold call so many places?

One organisation said they only do advocacy and invited me for some gala event to campaign against the abuse of women. The head asked me to speak to a specific person at the very same NGO I had visited. But what was most disturbing is that, she gave me the helpline no, the one that is consistently busy. Don’t people understand that all nos and addresses can be pulled off the net with a few clicks?

After two nights and no intervention, the lady returned home with her kids. She looked dejected. Even if the flesh was willing, the spirit was dead. Her hubby seemed happy, and brought ice-cream for the kids. But my friend Sana who works in the area of abused women, warned me that the violence will strike again. And she was right. The man came home punch drunk and started pulling her hair and slapping her. But apparently the kids began yelling and formed a sort of human shield around the mother, so the father stopped.

Luckily, a colleague’s relative heads a human rights commission. He sent across a policeman who cut authoritarian figure and carried a bamboo stick, to speak with the husband. While the kids were at school and the lady at work, the cop gave the husband a warning, and said that the next time round he would be at the police station. When the wife returned home, the husband feigned being “slapped around” by a cop. But he said he won’t touch her again, and they can live in the same house but “go about life their separate ways”. I noticed that post this visit, the lady seemed to have found her voice and one can only hope that there is no more violence.

Wife beaters inspire two kinds of reactions in me – vile anger that heightened when at their violent worst and pity, when the voice of authority makes them beg to be spared.
However, the immense, immense disappointment I feel in the NGO, which in a sense let the lady down by not following up, is immeasurable.

To be honest, the counselor did not inspire much confidence even during our meeting. I had hoped that she would offer some more specific, perhaps practical advice to the lady, and her disposition lacked a sense of urgency. We could have been discussing the lunch menu.

I ranted on about it to a friend, and he said it could be a class thing. But I seriously doubt it. As a culture, our attitude towards things like efficiency, punctuality, prompt communication, urgency of purpose is rather lackadaisical, perhaps non-existent. For instance, I was surprised that we did not even have any sort of reference No. One would expect that besides the legal spiel, a streamlined process and commonsensical solutions might also be suggested.

On a different note, we explained to the lady’s son that grinning when mummy is being thrashed is not cool, and that he needs to look after her always. He nodded and said he would, but having been exposed to a precedent set by the father, he could go either way. Fingers crossed.

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Delusional ideas about the calibre of poor children!


2010
07.31

I switched on the news recently and there she was – a parent whose child studies at Bethany High school (Bangalore), saying something to this effect: “How can you place two types of children – poor and rich – students of different “calibre” alongside in the same class?” The assumption was that the calibre of a poor child is low and that of a rich child is high. She used words such as “higher” and “weaker’ to describe children from these economic backgrounds.

The pupils dilated!

The bile rose in disbelief as the lady spewed garbage on national television!

Ameeta Wattal, Principal, Springdales School, also a part of a raging debate, shook her head in disgust. ” I can’t listen to this, ” she muttered every few minutes, under her breath.

The discussion was pegged on a circular put together by Bethany, which was then circulated privately to parents; it referred to poor children as “criminals” who are likely to smoke and beat up “your” children in class. According to the principal, the idea was to warn parents of what to expect in the following one year in light of the Right to Education Act, according to which private schools must reserve 25% seats for poor students in Class 1 in 2011.

Click here to watch the debate.

It is one thing to be uncomfortable about the consequences of the RTE, but to actually believe that calibre is decided by one’s economic background is delusional! Arnab, looking bewildered and somewhat resigned at this attitude, quizzed the parent on how “calibre” could possibly be dependent on whether you are rich or poor?

The principal of yet another private school stated that putting a rich child and a poor child in the same classroom is not appropriate, as one would be gabbing about McD’s while the other “does not even know whether he will get the basic things” (perhaps if they do the latter would discuss global warming instead of McDs!). This idea was somewhat thwarted by a tweet by an ex-student of Kendriya Vidyalaya who said that many of his schoolmates came from very poor backgrounds, and some of them are his best friends even today.

Come to think of it, I had poor classmates, too. It was really no big deal. But one thing is certain; before poor children set foot into a private school populated by children of a certain strata, it is the principal, teachers and the management who need to be sensitised.  Children of course are the least of the problem as they tend to emulate whatever is practiced by their role models.

On a different note, as I fed Daffy one day (a street dog who lives down the lane), a little boy of about 7-8 years of age, who works as a rag picker watched Daffy as he lapped up half a litre of milk. I felt guilty for feeding a hungry dog whilst a hungry child, looked on. The boy began following me and asked me for some money to buy food. But instead offering him money, I gave him a packet of biscuits, which he wolfed down in a jiffy before I could say “Khao”. I asked him his name and had to stoop really low to get a whiff of what he was saying. Braj Singh, I figured.

Every now and then, the boy follows me and I give him biscuits or a kachori. One day we decided to have some aloo tikki. As it was being prepared on a wok, the man started warning me (animatedly) about how the boy uses the money people give him, to buy beer. I then reminded him that he is a kid. Then he told me that the gang of rag pickers steal, and that the police is always keeping an eye on them. Once again I reminded him that these “thieves” were between 8-12 years of age, and unless taught otherwise, they are bound to be up to no good. He quit eulogising and handed over a plate of food to the boy.

On a different note (seems I am addicted to this phrase!), a friend of mine once made a very, very odd statement during those formative days when I was getting acquainted with him. “I like poor people,” he said, later confiding in me that his parents were migrant workers who had seen very, very hard days. A bright student, books and his love for reading set him free.

A media professional who has created somewhat of a niche for himself, today, I applaud my friend for making the crossover to a white collar position that lets him influence thoughts, ideas and people. But he never forgets the difficult days and remembers the names of the children at every traffic signal, and has a smile, food and other goodies for them, when the signal turns red.

On the other hand, I have another friend who is also a position to influence thoughts, ideas and people, someone who is jovial, funny and empathetic, and yet is unempathetic to the chai boy who delivers his chai. He asked the chai boy for the amount he had to pay him to which the boy muttered something incoherently. My friend asked him rather brusquely to speak louder and gave him the amount sans a tip. The chai boy seemed like a zombie, a little zombie of eight years or less, with no expression on his face. I asked him his name and gave him some money, but his expression did not change and he seemed resigned to being expressionless.

Rediff.com, recently did a series children who work for over eight hours a day and earn a pittance, everyday:

12-year old Mohammed wanted to watch FIFA. But he could not…

Lil’ un named Shumbhu

”With Rs 200 a month, I can’t even afford to dream”

The comments to these pieces were diverse. Some insist we ban child labour. But then if we ban it, what will they eat? Another observed that employing children is one thing. But being cruel and brutal is another. Yet another reader was pissed with the author: “By writing this article and giving the photograph of the 11-year old boy, you have done a grave injustice to him. Most probably he will lose this job as the government authorities will be after his employer and charge him for engaging child labour. The poor boy will lose his job and whatever little earning he is getting now to educate his brothers. Has the writer given any thought to this before writing?”

Perhaps he has a point. But the long and short of it is that the series of stories, which tells it as it is, generated much interest from readers and several comments, mostly empathetic, concerned ones. Perhaps it is because of the approach to the stories is to tell it as it is, and not romantise their situation through the use of rich prose. Either ways, these stories gave a face to the little faces in our chai stalls and grocery stores. Perhaps we cannot change their lives, but we can be kind and we can smile and we can give them a cookie or a tip every now and then.

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Why are you scared of a Muslim?


2010
06.14

A COUPLE of weeks back a close friend from Mumbai popped down to Delhi for a work trip. Right off the bat I noticed she wasn’t sporting her pristine white Hijab; she donned it some years back as an experiment, felt comfy wearing it. It was here to stay. Or so we thought.

Sadly, this pristine white piece of cloth hampers her pace of work, she explained.

This qualified dentist who now works in the social sector, is fiercely dedicated to her NGO’s mission. But it turns out that the folks she interacts with during field trips are less receptive when she dons the Hijab. During more generic activities such as (surprise, surprise) watching a play at Prithvi Theatre, it arouses odd – sometimes devious stares – from supposedly evolved theatre-goers.

She now uses discretion when wearing it.

So whilst the Burka is being banned in Europe, here in India our girl conforms (for psychological reasons), so as to get the job done. A feisty American woman @jbacyrus tweeted: ‘What’s up with French people and their burqa obsession? Will they require boob displays next? http://bit.ly/cQ5Efb

Now S, who has been living for donkey’s years with her grandparents in an old building in a Mumbai suburb, has a paan-spewing tenant for a neighbour who also happens to be Muslim. During a society meeting, some members wanted to disallow Muslims as tenants and this seems to have been triggered by the tenant’s paan-spewing shenanigans. She pointed out coolly that she is Muslim too, but not a paan-spewing one, and that this act is related to personal preference, habit, not religion. During my house-hunting days in Mumbai a broker once told me in hushed tones that the landlord would prefer if I did not keep a Muslim roomie. Sigh.

S observed, “So, even if you want out of the ghetto, no one gives you a chance and you are forced to return and feel humiliation at the hands of the very same ghetto.”

“Okay, so you will get turned down by six people but what about the twelfth house. You must persist,” I suggested. “No, the twelfth person will also turn you down,” she said with conviction.

I felt a tinge of sadness because we grew up knowing Muslims, very closely. Our neighbour in Muscat was a loud, affectionate, garrulous, bindaas dishdasha-clad Omani chap named Khalid, whose daughter was tutored by my mother and whose wives (I think there were two) babysat us when the folks had chores to attend to. We attended Zakia’s (mum’s student) wedding, ushered in by wailing women.

And then, when I was six, mom would leave my sis and I, with this homely woman, whose kids Aftab and Amar became staunch playmates. Sadly, Amar is no more. We looking forward to the  Ramzan meal with the family after the sun set every evening. To date Mrs Jameel’s mutton gravy makes my mouth water.

And back to the present.

On a more positive note, a common male Muslim friend (of S and I) took the initiative and organised a big family holiday at a valley resort located many miles from Mumbai. The quiet little resort did not know what hit it when a bus full of bearded men and burqa-clad ladies arrived at the venue. My friend, who is in his late 20s, encouraged the ladies to take a dip in the pool (clothed from head to toe), a first for many women in the family.

He experienced “sheer delight” watching them enjoy themselves. “I had to cajole them into trying it. Someone said: this is so funny, water is going in everywhere! I had to hold their hand and slowly introduce them to the waters, something they have resisted for so long,” he says. According to him, the men and women in his family are so brilliantly house-trained that the housekeeping staff must wonder if anyone actually stayed in their rooms!

Coming back to my conversation with S I asked her very earnestly,” Why are people scared of Muslims?” She posed the very same question to me, and we pondered together. A couple of days later, I posed this question to another friend, a non-Muslim who was engaged to a Muslim boy for many years. This was her answer,” The sight of so many people praying in unison makes people sub-consciously envious of the community. It’s the numbers that instill the fear.”

”Okay, so people are scared but perhaps the younger generation should try and change perceptions,” I suggested to S. “I don’t think that’s the solution; people should just mix more, not keep a distance. Talk more, mingle more, have regular experiences,” she said, earnestly…

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Gay night out!


2010
03.31

WHEN a gay fashion designer invites one for the opening of his new signature store, be ready for both drama and surprise. Not that all gay people are dramatic. Some folks are subtle, and prefer maintaining a low profile (such as my friend Sunshine).

But coming back to the evening, post working the zombie hour for a couple days with pasty skin and disheveled kurtas, this soiree presented a nice opportunity to transform from geek to goddess. It was time to deck up to the nines, with heels, pencil jeans, chunky silver jewellery, the works. It was also time for eye shadow. Powder blue.
I landed up at chic little boutique, which had stark white décor and found myself in a room teeming with gay men. A familiar face popped out of the woodwork, and some air kissing happened. He introduced me to his friends. One of them was a doctor who also choreographs. Another owned an art gallery and sweetly invited me to explore it on a Sunday.

Post white wine, sushi and banter, someone christened me with an epithet that is popular in the gay world. It sounded a lot like ‘Fat Hag’. I stared at the boy curiously, and turns out he meant Fag Hag; a straight woman who hangs out with gay men (detailed description available on Wiki). Someone then asked me if I had noticed so-and-so’s brand new shoes. I said,” No”. “Then you’re an FFH…a Fake Fag Hag,” he said, tweaking epithet with precision.

In the course of the evening I chatted with this chap who grew up in a predominantly Roman Catholic country. His coming out (at the age of 12) was a horrific journey, and I was shocked to hear that he was beaten up every day by family and at school kids were encouraged to throw things at him. Daily living was a nightmare and he finally fled to the US. Since then he has been very happy with an Indian partner, who’s own coming out story was much more tender. His mother cried for one night. Now, all is well.

Post the inauguration, we proceeded to a nightclub owned by a well-known fashion designer in Delhi. One of the straight boys in the group (who hails from my hometown), looked bewildered, flabbergasted, flummoxed by this explosion of effeminate men, who air kissed, dressed chic and expressed themselves with a certain joie de vivre. The doctor who choreographs took me under his wing and began scoping out straight men in the vicinity, and with a vengeance.

While he went off to continue with his R&D, one chap came up to me and asked for my number. This very forward gesture by a Delhi straight male, reminded me of something I was told when I first came to the city. It is the gay capital of the country. “Also, everyone is sleeping with everyone,” the person said of people in the upper middle class and upper class, where promiscuity reigns supreme. Indeed, the folks oozed sexiness from every pore. As they canoodled with one person, they also scoped out remaining eye candy in the room.

I shooed away the chap, figured that all straight (or most) men in room looked kinda daft and joined some people on the dance floor. A couple was grooving together just a stone’s throw away, when one of them dropped his beer.

Two drops fell on my sleeves, and he apologised profusely. Seizing the moment, I told him that he could make good by buying me a drink. And he did. And guess how much this measly pint of Kingfisher cost? Rs 300. “This would have cost me Rs 5 or something to that effect in Goa, “ I whispered to a friend.

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Eggetarian days


2010
03.27

I AM giving eggetarianism a serious shot. It’s not a health and fitness decision, but an emotional one (as my Editor pointed out); I realise that I can no longer suffer the cruel methods used to butcher animals in this country (maybe others, too).

One of the worst killing rituals I have witnessed is the excruciatingly painful and gruelingly long manner in which we butcher pigs in Goa. I was about 10 years old. Some folks cooed and whistled with rapt excitement akin to Spaniards at a bullfight. Both are equally inhumane killings, though the bullfight would figure higher up on the cruelty scale. They prepare the bull; intoxicate and agitate it sufficiently, by poking it with spears before it thunders down the rink. The matador’s job is to massacre it, and this spectacle entertains fair maidens and royalty.

I watched a documentary on a bullfight at a bullfighting rink, which is no longer functional, in Barcelona. Thank God. It made the bile rise.

Coming back to the little piggy, a slit is made in its throat, and the blood is collected, and later used to add flavour and thicken the gravy in certain dishes. For some time the poor thing scampers about, looking very alarmed. Then it bleeds and squeals itself to death, literally. The entire village knows what’s happening and so do the remaining pigs in the pen. That’s how loud the squealing gets.

Some have asked: what about plants? Yes, they suffer too. But having been born a non-vegetarian, giving up meat by itself is a tough nut to crack, but I am committed. Every now and then, I feel very tempted to bite into some salami, and then I remember the squealing piggy. So if you see me taking a bite of a chicken wing, forgive me. It’s probably during a moment of weakness, when the flesh is weak.

Baby steps.

I also come from a family, with a legacy of meat eaters. In the past, I have jokingly called myself a carnivore when people enquired if I eat meat. Turkey, sorpatel, vindaloo and tiger prawn balcao, grace the dinner table at family dos. Holidays and dinners may prove difficult if there’s only meat on the menu. How does one tackle such limitations without causing a scene, inviting difficult questions and being labeled as someone gone cuckoo? It’s something I need to figure out.

On the bright side, I am sampling a variety of vegetarian food in a city, which has some of the best food I have ever tasted in my whole life. This transition is forcing me to do it, and there were some wonderful surprises, along the way. Dal Bhatti, a crunchy Rajasthani delicacy, best consumed when warm. Paneer Tikka Masala, a spicy concoction, relished with a garlic naan. Bhatura. Paneer Chilli Fry.

A veggie friend should be thrilled about this development. Now, we can break bread together.

Update:
I was a vegetarian for around two months but ultimately I resorted back to my non-veggie ways. But I don’t feel great about it. Perhaps, in another life or even in this one, in the future…

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