I’m not a cynic. Not am I suspicious by instinct. But a few years in this city and my instincts have gotten all topsy-turvy. Now, I feel the need to be extra gaurded when it comes to people and their intentions.
For instance, friendships in a city are often based on common interests. However, when there’s a crisis these people are the last ones you turn too. Not because they are bad people. It just doesn’t strike them that friendship goes beyond hanging out. And if you do turn to them, you need to spell out the solutions yourself and wait for them to agree or disagree. The best option to turn to those who care for you unconditionally. Often they are people who have nothing in common with you.
Then there’s the other type — guys you date who actually want to get to know your friends better. You have a nice evening with them, great conversation etc. Then you party in a group and they start making absolute asses of themselves by throwing themselves at your friends. This is because your friends think he like you or is at least supposed to like you, but uh-uh, why is he hitting on them? They lose all respect for the guy and tell you to drop him like a hot coal. The loser in the end is the guy cause he no longer has you even for a friend. And there’s a posse of women out there who are now wary of you.
Then there’s the work colleague who jokes around all the time. And the jokes are so funny that everyone really likes them. But by and by you discover the truth; you (and by you I mean everyone) are the butt of the joke. Suddenly it stops being that funny.
These are 3 stereotypes to watch out for.
